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I believe that the quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives. As a marriage and family therapist, I work with individuals and couples to create thriving and vibrant relationships with themselves and the important people in their lives. I bring years of experience working with couples and families and have a deep understanding of the complexity of adult relationships. My work is grounded in attachment theory which establishes that we are relational beings wired for connection and belonging. I am passionate about guiding individuals and couples toward relationship health, healing, and decision making, and when inevitable toward intentional uncoupling.

I bring ten years experience as a family law attorney and mediator to my therapeutic work. I help clients gain clarity about their relationship. I work with individuals and couples to revitalize a relationship that has become stale or disconnected by rebuilding emotional and physical intimacy. I am highly skilled in working with couples who are in the midst of a crisis and are on the brink of divorce. I offer healing, insight, reflection, rebuilding, and relationship skills.

You are welcome to schedule a 30-minute consultation to see if we are a good fit at mettarel.com.

I specialize in working with couples with young children.

Many couples seek therapy after acute stress (medical/birth trauma), or after years of chronic stress (birth of a sibling). But I believe couples counseling is for everyone and every parent. That's because couples counseling with EFT is about connection, intimacy, and discovering yourself in your relationship. The work you will do in couples counseling will be transformative. Secure attachment doesn't just happen. It happens because we work on it.

“Love isn't a state of perfect caring. It is an active noun like struggle. To love someone is to strive to accept that person exactly the way he or she is, right here and now.” —Fred Rogers

I help individuals, couples, and families to rediscover hope, find healing, and achieve a renewed joy in living! I do this by integrating best therapeutic practices with clients’ personal strengths, including their faith, to address the multitude of issues, past and present, that are causing pain, strained relationships, and despair. I am especially interested in helping couples who are struggling with loving one another. As an EFT trained-therapist, I help these couples break out of the negative patterns that lead to resentment and division, and create new, positive ways of interacting that strengthen unity, love, and intimacy.

I believe in the power of couples therapy, and using the EFT model in particular. I understand how painful it can be to experience ongoing conflict or distance in our most important relationships. Sometimes we need a new way of looking at things—within us and between ourselves and our partner—to understand what's going on. With this new understanding, we can start to make the changes that will lead to a closer, more connected relationship.

Oftentimes, couples wait a long time before seeking help. It can be scary not knowing what to expect, and wondering if it will really help. By this time, they have experienced a lot of pain, and have established negative ways of interacting as a way to cope with the stress.

Don't wait! Help is available—just take the first step. Call or email me today and we can talk about how I can help.

Roy is an individual, couple, and family therapist who provides a supportive, thoughtful, and encouraging place for you. He is experienced in the medical, educational, and mental health fields and holds two master's degrees. Roy is a licensed marriage and family therapist, and a supervisor and trainer of other therapists in the state of Washington.

Roy works with divorced and blended families, and with clients who may be depressed, worried, or sad, having family problems, dealing with sexuality issues, or faced with creating a new family and couple. He respectfully treats single parents, families, and ethnic and sexual minorities. Free 20-minute phone consultation.

I believe that the process of healing begins through authentic and vulnerable connection with another. My counseling orientation is informed by attachment theory and the relational psychodynamic therapeutic model, which looks at patterns of relating from early life up to the present. Additionally, working with Emotionally Focused Therapy provides an opportunity for couples to experience attachment and deeper emotional intimacy in their relationship.

I hold Chemical Dependency Professional-Trainee certification from the state of Washington.

As a fully Certified EFT couples therapist and a Level 2 EFT individual therapist, my goal in therapy is to help couples, men and women cultivate a greater awareness, acceptance and regulation of emotion, thought and behavior. I assist clients in becoming fully aware of core emotions and the disconnecting behaviors that result when they are unrecognized and unshared. We will work together to help you develop the ability to communicate in ways that will foster increased connection and intimacy with all of your relationships. In this process, you can gain a more meaningful understanding of how you interact with your partner or spouse, and other close people in your life. In gentle and powerful ways my clients come to understand how it is that they have become distant from once cherished loved ones—and how to grow a safer, more accepting and secure connection to yourself and to those with whom you are in relationship.

I work together with my wife, Karin Matthews, as a co-therapy team to help couples bring more connection and life to their relationships.

Karin and I are two very different people: female/male, extrovert/introvert, expressive/reserved, with different careers and cultural backgrounds. Working together as a team allows us to offer you the benefit of our combined backgrounds, personalities, and perspectives. We find that our own diversity meshes well with the diversity within the couples that we see and helps us make sense of what both partners of a couple are experiencing.

If you’re having a hard time with conflict, or are feeling more distant and disconnected than you’d like, we can work with you to help you understand how you’ve come to be stuck where you are and to find new ways to navigate your differences with compassion and respect for yourselves and each other.

I help couples get underneath cycles of criticism, stonewalling, and distress so that they can find intimacy and connection and a way forward. I also specialize in working with blended families and parenting conflicts. My work is attachment trauma–informed, and it is greatly influenced by the couple-oriented work of Sue Johnson and Emotionally Focused Therapy. I am currently certifying as a sex therapist and invite couples and individuals working through sexual dysfunction to seek me out.

I believe in creating a non-judgmental, safe place for couples to resolve distress and discover intimacy. I welcome clients of all sexual orientations and gender identities.

When your relationships struggle, your entire life can be a struggle. At times it can seem that even though you desire rewarding and fulfilling relationships, countless obstacles prevent this from happening. We can all find ourselves stuck in this place at times, unable to change personal situations or navigate difficulties in relationships.

I provide evidence-based care using EFT to help couples connect rather than fight. Working with individuals, I help navigate depression, anxiety, grief, loss, and life transitions. I am particularly drawn to working with individuals in addiction recovery, as well as those impacted by other people's addictions. I provide a free 20-minute phone consultation for prospective clients.

Relationships with a significant other are one of the most important and satisfying relationships you will ever have. The impact of of this relationship can affect your physical and emotional health. Because relationships are dynamic, even those that begin in healthy connection can deteriorate over time. I offer help in coming alongside you to strengthen the many facets of your relationship and help you learn to connect, not just communicate or problem-solve.

I am a licensed mental health counselor in the state of Washington. I hold dual master's degrees in mental health, and in marriage and family therapy from Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary. I have a bachelor's of science degree in exercise science with a minor in psychology from the University of Southern California. I have had the opportunity to work in a variety of therapy settings including medical, educational, athletic, faith-based, and clinical. I work with individuals and couples. Additionally, I mentor individuals, facilitate group sessions, and lead public speaking engagements. As a provider, I am passionate about the well-being and growth of every client with whom I work.

I have been a marriage and family therapist and a mediator for 28 years. The focus of my therapy practice is Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, as well as individual counseling for those struggling in their intimate relationships. Too many therapists have only been trained to work with individuals and just add couples work to the services they offer…because they can. Yet, without a firm grounding in how people act and react in their intimate relationships, the therapist will get lost in endless efforts at problem-solving and assigning homework that seems to go nowhere (or worse, makes people even more distant and dispirited). EFT provides a salubrious lens through which struggling partners can view their painful cycle of conflict or disconnection. It guides us to a way out of that cycle. Albert Einstein said that we can’t solve a problem with the same thinking that created the problem in the first place. EFT provides a new, different way of thinking. This work is a revelation and I would find it a privilege to join you in this journey of discovery and forging peace and closeness where you might have thought that they could no longer be found. I invite you to learn more about me and my approach on my website and in my book (available on Amazon): Divorce (or Not): A Guide – Part II – How to Choose and Use a Couple Therapist.

I work with all kinds of couples, and I particularly love working with couples where illness or disability is a relationship issue. I am in my mid-40s and was raised in New York. I graduated from Antioch University Seattle in 2009, after a career change, and am engaged in ongoing advanced training and supervision in Emotionally Focused Therapy.

I am a bilingual (Spanish-English) psychotherapist who helps couples and individuals improve their communication and develop their potential, to grow as personally and in relationships. Through EFT I have found the framework to enable my clients to see where their relationship is trapped without blaming one person. We focus on how 'my behavior influences how you react, which at the same time influences how I respond to your response.'

I can help you adjust to major life changes (acculturation process, medical illness, separation, empty nest, PTSD, depression, anxiety, and more) and strengthen your ability to cope with adversity and regain peace. I am interested in the psychological, biological, social, and spiritual well-being of the person.

I am originally from Chile, where I studied and provided therapy for 4 years. I earned my master’s degree in marriage and family therapy and a certificate in medical family therapy at Seattle Pacific University.